Marriage, if you believe the overwrought hyperbole of the rabid right-wing that controls the Republican Party and wants to send America deeper into the dark ages, is a sacred institution limited only to the coupling of a man and woman — a doctrine, they claim, blessed by the Bible and worthy of ratification by the Constitution of the United States.
As with much of the overbearing positions that come from both the right and the left, the extremism of the opposition to gay marriage is loaded with exaggeration, laced with falsehoods and driven by old-fashioned bigotry.
In a perfect world, the only emotion that should control marriage is love and love is not limited to gender. The binding emotion that brings two people together: a man and woman, a man and a man or a woman and a woman is not limited by the pettiness, ignorance and homophobia that drives the extremism of the rapid right and the political party it controls.
Recent polls show an increasing majority of Americans supporting the concept of gay marriage. Homosexuality — once a secret condition that could affect employment, enlistment in the military or reputations — has justifiably come out of the closet and into mainstream America.
Yet the decreasing number of bigots who dominate the Republicans and the right fight the trend and pound on the Bible, a book of contradictions that is too often used as justification in a political role that its authors never intended.
Those who offer up their bigotry against gays claim the practice is perverted and sinful. What is perverted is the outright homophobia used to oppose gays and the real sin is the constant misinterpretation and use of a book of conflicting positions to justify a religious justification that does not exist.
In Washington, a city of contradictions and hypocrisy, those who speak out against gays often turn out to be gay themselves. Terry Dolan, the late head of the National Conservative Political Action Committee, led campaigns against homosexuality until he was outed as gay. Dolan died of AIDS.
While in working in Washington for 23 years, I often encountered gays who worked within Republican and right-wing organizations and hid their leanings while helping fashion campaigns against gays.
Ken Mehlman ran the Republican National Committee and the re-election campaign of George W. Bush. Melhman admitted he was gay in 2010.
Former GOP Congressman Jim Kolbe of Arizona campaigns against homosexuality when he ran for office in 1985. In 1996, he admitted he was gay.
Steve Stockmeyer, long a trusted adviser to Newt Gingrich, ran the National Republican Congressional Committee, helped start the National Association of Business PACS and left Washington after a long and successful career. The fact that he was gay was well known in political circles.
One of the constant warnings of those who campaigned against gays was the claim that “homosexuals would infiltrate society.” Those warnings often came from gays hiding within the ranks of the right wing and the Republican party.
But what is more of a threat? The existence of gays in society or the hypocritical homophobia that spills out of the right like verbal diarrhea?
Our position here is simple. A concept based on love is always preferable to one based on bigotry and fear.
With luck, the Supreme Court of the United States will see it that way too.
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