Let’s get into sex for a change

My family bred horses and dogs and to us sex meant breeding babies. Apparently things have changed in the last 40 years and now we seem to be fixated on either learning how to have sex; learning how to have sex without pregnancies and how not to have sex. Where does one even begin?

I was sent an article written by Laura Sessions Stepp from the Washington Post that government mandated abstinence-only programs are not working. Okay, let’s talk about it.

During the Clinton Administration we had his Surgeon General, Joycelyn Elders, talk about mutual masturbation to keep the kids satisfied without the fear of pregnancy. She was booted immediately whether her information was valid or simply inappropriate.

When President Bush was elected, his social issues were focused against abortions. Okay, but instead of preventing abortions his plan was for eliminating sex completely. Did he really believe his word would be enough to stop our hormone driven teens surrounded with sexual content in the television and music videos to just stop when asked?

Apparently it didn’t work as studies are coming back saying “no dice” and many of the children who were already sexually active were left to their devices on how, where and when they could have sex. Apparently the parents were seldom home and the kids bored, and so it goes.

Abstinence means putting off sex until marriage. Doing this may have worked but the kids soon caught up with the social climate and it simply did not work. Birth control pills may be the only way to stop unwanted pregnancies but it did not stop the spreading of various Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs). Sadly oral sex became the practice of the young kids and was available anywhere but did spread herpes and other contagious diseases. Only condoms worked but we all know they are unpopular and often forgotten in the throes of passion.

I sent my girls off to college with prescriptions for birth control pills but my fear was that AIDs virus was just starting and the girls were no longer living at home but both convinced me they were knowledgeable of the situation.

I often read my adopted home town paper and this morning they covered the shots available at their schools for preventing the virus linked to cancer, and its vaccine. The name of this new drug is “Cardasil” and 3 shots will protect the girls against cervical cancer. Many women my age (mid 70s) have lost their cervixes to cancer along with their ovaries and uterus. It’s a nasty surgery often leaving us without hormone production and prone to hot flashes and temper tantrums.

I do not believe these shots should be mandated by the federal or state governments but made available to the girls who want this protection. The Bush people feel it will encourage promiscuity. Yeah sure! They will all head down to Florida and want to be one of the girls in those awful videos, “having fun” “on the loose” or whatever they call it. The educators, within the schools furnishing these shots, are finding that the coeds are more aware of STDs than those who are not taking the shots. I do not know the cost of these shots but they could not be as expensive as the latest fad in shoes.

HPV (human papillomavirus) is the most common STD infecting about 25 million women and girls ages 14 to 59. The last numbers coming from the “Centers for Disease Control and Prevention” are that 50% of all sexually active men and women acquire HPV in their lifetime.

Where does it leave us as parents and grandparents except to do everything in our power to protect our kids no matter what their age or sex. If we leave it to the schools it will never work. We must all discuss these pros and cons of careful hygiene and the many chances they take in their private lives. Personally I think the federal government has no authority or answers to any of these problems.

The parents hold the winning hand and if they can’t handle this, the churches might want to take a chance. The last resort should be found in the classrooms and we should never forget Planned Parenthood has many programs available on the health of the girls.


  1. Sandy Price

    I, however, had them done but my own way. I did not like all that stuff being given in one shot and had them spread out with at least a month between each shot. I also raised very small chihuahuas and had their rabies shots divided up into 3 shots given a month a part.

    I was raised in the Mormon church and was encouraged to have many babies. I had my share but stopped at one adopted son and 2 girls. I then adopted a badly abused teenager girl. Her grandfather finally showed up and took her away.

    Many Christian churches are against birth control and of course against abortion. This has added millions of unwanted children in America. I feel all babies should be wanted and loved.

  2. Carl Nemo

    My apologies Sandy if the spelling correction possibly stung, but that was not my intention. I misspell in my commentaries quite frequently and so do others. I only did so because the discussion was about a pharmaceutical product. Even I continued to misspell the product which is “Gardasil” not Gardisil which I continued to misspell even in my correction post. #-o

  3. SammyG

    Absolutely not Sandy, simply including both, nor do I think that conservatives are basically Christians who feel sex is a sin. As a matter of fact there are Christians who are not conservative and conservatives who are not Christian.

    My wife and I have never been told by Christians that since we had that piece of paper we had to make babies.

    I never suggested that a city could or should find it necessary to vaccinate against cervix cancer; in fact Gardacil does not specifically do this. It vaccinates against two cancer causing strains of HPV. If one does the math, one will find that the maximum possible benefit against cervix cancer is to spare less than one percent of approximately one half of the population of a virus that generally is spread by way of a personal choice. Contrast this with vaccines currently required by states for school children such as polio, MMR etc; diseases which can spread by inadvertent contact through the general population.

    Again however I agree that government needs to keep out of this and should stay within the confines of its rules, in the case of our federal government, the Constitution.

  4. Sandy Price

    If I misspelled the product, I’m sorry. I had hoped the action was more important than the drug. Thank you for the correction.