Catholic Rules

I am catholic, by faith, question, Why don’t they take the iniative to change Priests and allow them to marry? Other religions do, is it the money, power or greed of the church. It’s 2009 and it still remains the same! Just like “annulment”, I so disagree with getting one, because my marriage didn’t work out, it was taken care of by the state laws, again, is it money, power or greed? Just because the church rules, I have children, now grown, that can’t be ruled away in an annulment, however, I am still cast away as far as re-marrying in the church without one, how really fair is that? After almost 20 years, I still revert to living alone and am deeply saddened I cannot get married in the church, against MY beliefs, even though I love another, and the big question, on that regard, is how can a layman, never experienced the sacrament of marriage decide that my divorce is warrent of an annulment, when they have no idea what exactly went on, it isn’t like I didn’t give it time, it was 17 years! I personally worked hard keeping it together for the kids sake and completely gave away the most part of my life in order to “save” my marrriage, how can I be judged in such a humiliated way? A friend of mine left the church to be married by a JP after her divorce and she got an annulment, because of the whole deal she was put through! I have questions but no answers, can someone help me? I’m confused!